"You can’t hate your fam-"
No.

"But they’re your fami-"
No.

"Your family can’t be-"
No.

If a family member gives me a reason to hate them, then I’m going to hate them. If the same thing was done by a random person it would be okay for me to hate them, so I can hate my family too. Just because they’re related to you, doesn’t mean you have to excuse someone’s shit.